How or where do I start? If I have a dollar for every lady\u2019s dating profile I have come across where the condition that takes pride of place is \u201cmake me laugh\u201d, I would be a millionaire. Yes, I do a lot of \u201cswiping\u201d. I am told it\u2019s a game of numbers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was chatting with a friend one day, and she started laughing because I just had my thumb swiping right without looking at the screen. If I do match with someone I am not interested in, I could always \u201cunmatch\u201d. Of course, there have been some cringe-worthy moments when (even though my profile is configured as “interested in women” only) I find myself matched with a guy. Those are the times I swiftly find the unmatch button! I am not homophobic, but I am only interested in women. Most of these occurrences are with either Bi or gay guys who have probably set their profile to match both sexes or just guys. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Back to the subject, the following is my opinion at the time of writing this piece and I reserve the right to change it at any time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I think it is time women realize the simple requirement of \u201cmake me laugh\u201d is likely a huge contributing factor to the proliferation of single baby mamas. Lots of guys have the skill to laugh all the way into your pants, and laugh all the way out, leaving you with a baby to raise by yourself while chasing them around for child support. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I know a lady under 30 with five kids (not all the same father) who\u2019s still look for a \u201cgood man to make her laugh\u201d. You would think after 5 kids, it would be clear to her that the \u201cmake me laugh\u201d kitsch is not \u201cworking\u201d for her. Maybe she needs someone to hit her over the head with a dirty diaper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yes, lots of guys who will \u201cmake you laugh\u201d have no sense of responsibility for anything other than themselves – some don\u2019t even have that. The scales only fall from your eyes when it\u2019s too late – when there\u2019s one or more kids involved. Then with some, the abuse starts, and the lady is wondering why the guy changed. No, he didn\u2019t change. Your primary requirement was \u201cmake me laugh\u201d and that\u2019s easy when the only responsibility was still to take you out to dinner, parties, clubs, exploring. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I watch a lot of true crime shows, and it\u2019s no longer surprising to me the number of women killed by their partners (compare 62% of women killed by their partners who are mostly men to just 5% of men killed by their partners who are mostly women). It\u2019s a vicious circle. Single baby mamas raise these boys with no father figures to teach them how to be a man and have respect for themselves and others. All the learning they have done is from their peers and the neighborhood older \u201cbad\u201d boys with no discernible direction in life beyond making the next quick buck. Who would have made several trips to jail by the time they are out of their teenage years and it\u2019s all downhill from there. They in turn produce single baby mamas and the cycle continues. Producing these boys and men who won\u2019t or can\u2019t take no. The famous cliche \u201cif I can\u2019t have you, then no one else\u201d repeats itself over and over again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You are in your early twenties and already saddled with a kid or more. No, it\u2019s not because you or the other party changed. It\u2019s because you were too young; it\u2019s because you didn\u2019t see beyond the \u201cmake me laugh\u201d, it\u2019s because you didn\u2019t see beyond the exciting trips and partying when it was just the two of you; it\u2019s because you think you are \u201cgrown\u201d at 18; it\u2019s because you got your first car at 16 making you believe you are independent and mature; it\u2019s because you made your \u201cown money\u201d from working part-time at some eatery. It\u2019s because you started dating at 14. It\u2019s because some parents and guardians that should know better, in the name of equality, believe that if boys can run wild, they can let girls do to. But boys don\u2019t get pregnant. Boys don\u2019t carry a living being in their bellies for 9 months, so it\u2019s easy for them not to have an attachment to the little screaming bundle that keeps you up at night. **<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Women need to be taught to have a higher standard than \u201cmake me laugh.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, I may just be bitter that I am single because I can\u2019t make anyone laugh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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** I am simplifying the scope of the problem of course. Other factors such as abuse, trauma, drugs, etc also come into play. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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